Facebook Friends=Real Friends?

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It’s pretty obvious that social media sites—Google Plus, Facebook, LinkedIn, and hoards of other similar online social sites—are here to stay. Their popularity is growing by the day, and the newcomer on the block, Google Plus, has grown faster since its launch than all of the others put together. Does this mean that we’re becoming de-personalized as a society?

Are Social Networks good places to make real friends?

I’ve had lots of discussions about this topic, both online and offline, recently. People who aren’t comfortable with computers and the internet seem to fear being left behind, and there might be some truth to that. I know that our friends who aren’t on Facebook are sometimes out of the loop as to what’s going on; it’s certainly not intentional, but we have a tendency to post things on Facebook and then assume that everyone in the gang knows.

Privacy Issues

Of course, some people resist social networking sites because of privacy issues and a perceived lack of in-person interactions. Many of these same people also feel that online networking will cause people to lose their social skills and ability to connect with others if they aren’t in those types of situations often enough.

Personality Problems

Online networking seems to give rise to a couple of problems that I’ve seen. First, it seems that you will always have some people who are just ‘trolls’ and enjoy being negative, mean, and vulgar to others behind the shield of the internet. We have seen some cases where this type of behavior has led to suicides among teenagers who had fragile self-images to begin with, and I am sure there are lots more cases that we don’t know about where these unbalanced people attack others anonymously. Secondly, it seems that people who lack social skills (ie, the painfully shy) will use it to interact online but don’t know how to get past that stage. My single friends talk about this all the time—guys “friend” them on Facebook and talk a great game, but never ask them out, or just disappear after lots of heavy flirting. (Datus interruptus?)

Building Relationships

Because of the widespread acceptance of social media sites, it’s possible to meet people all over the world at any time of day or night. Those with similar interests can find you and reach out to you via cyberspace even while you are sleeping. It is pretty amazing when you think how far we’ve come in such a short time; our sphere of influence increases daily, and is likely much larger than we even realize. However, when you “meet” someone new online, it is important that you get to know them, what you have in common, why they connected with you. The same types of questions you’d ask at a friend’s party are surely fair game in this situation. (Where do you live? Where are you from? What do you do for a living?)

Networking with local folks is probably a great idea for those in the dating world. You can learn a lot about someone, including how they interact with their friends, by getting to know them virtually before an actual meeting. In fact, it can be great to meet someone in person after you’ve known them alone for a time; just be sure that you still have some things to talk about.

The jury is still out about social networking, but it would seem that it can only enhance the process of getting to know new people. Certainly, cyberspace will never replace a warm smile or a handshake from a friend, new or old.

  • facebook should introduce circles like features of google plus

    • I agree, facebook needs to change fast and adapt, now that Google+ it taking off.
      As for facebook friends, I could care less. For me only real life friends real matter and I never started a friendship with someone I met on facebook.

    • I disagree with you on that one Sourish, Facebook is doing just fine as it is. There is no need to implement circle features from Google plus. Its still way too early in my opinion to make hasty moves like that.

      -Jean

  • Personally, I have a few friends on Facebook that I consider quite close. In real life, I have always found it hard to find people with common interests, and Facebook and others like it have helped me in that area. Most of these friends are from good families and I can tell that just by talking to them often. Of course I have a real life friend circle too but it sure would be nice to have atleast one real life friend with common interests.

  • I think Facebook’s platform was the perfect one when introduced. It has reconnected many old friendships and built new ones based on similar interests. Listening to their users would serve them well right now as they adapt to compete and be relevant for the future.

  • I want to share one thing to you. In fact, face book friends are never equal to the real friends because it has an lot of differences in real world and in web – its my point of view.

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    Good view.